The jury is still out on mine although I'm still married. We've been living separate for 2 years, he is sober almost 1 year. I feel like it's all I work on - 2 alanon meetings a week, 1 weekly therapy for me and one for couples counseling. He attends AA every day and has a good sponsor. And yet, I don't know if it will work. I often wonder what am I still doing here? If it weren't for 21 years of marriage and 4 kids, I would have left a long long time ago. It's a tremendous amount of work for so little return at this point.