EJ, sometimes it's a tough road. But it is always better with a sober mind. Be open minded throughout the process of "reconnecting" with your hubby. Try not to be judgmental. Our thought processes change as we grow in sobriety. Being able to accept things as they are is one of the challenges. No matter how much we want to or wish we can, we cannot change another person. We either accept and adapt or we struggle.
He suggested counseling which means he wants your life to improve. Be willing to compromise and be understanding. The coals are still warm. Sometimes just some kindling on the coals to get the flame started is all it takes. Don't throw on the heavy wood and start fanning furiously hoping for it to blaze up. Take it slow and deliberate.
You have a lot on your plate. You are doing great. Try not to let everything overwhelm you. Remember to focus on yourself first. Keep that sober foundation and it will make you stronger to deal with all else life throws at you. We're all behind you.