Are you employed in a "helping" field? Bc you are not his caretaker. He can make his own decisions. But you may feel some joy in helping others. A fulfilment in your life. I thrive on helping others. It has been the hardest for me to step away from my bfs addiction. But I, nor you can help them. You will find someone..or someone will find you that will treat you the way you deserve. His drinking may be a big issue but it seems like he is an overall ****** person.