RC - I married my AH without even knowing he had a drinking problem. We've been married for 2.5 years and my AH has been sober for almost 4 months. Whatever decision you make, know what you are getting into (or saving yourself from). Without even realizing it, I allowed the alcoholism to change me into someone I didn't even recognize (a codependent). It's been an incredibly painful saga - much of which I have shared on this website. It's getting better, but it is still really difficult. Now, instead of putting alcohol before me, he's putting his recovery before me. It's tough playing second fiddle throughout your entire marriage, even if that is what it takes to keep him sober. Make an informed decision. Calling off your wedding is better than calling off your marriage - or worse yet, calling off your life.