Originally Posted by
Jamjam13 
So I pray, and I ask God to heal my wife. And she drinks.
In my own personal journey I found a significant turnaround happened when I stopped doing this.
On some visceral level I realized that it wasn't my place to ask God to heal my husband. If my husband wanted healing he could ask God himself. He knew how to reach him if he wanted to.
I had spent years imploring my Higher Power to protect my husband, all the while neglecting myself. When the prayer switched from "Dear God help him" to "Dear God help me" everything started changing.
Just a thought.