When my oldest son was that age, I had those same instincts saying he shouldn't go. But I wanted to believe him and trust him so I let him go. He has always been a sweetheart of a kid. I allowed him alot of freedom as a teen even though it was against my gut feeling. Guess what? This past year at the age of 22, guess who I drove to rehab for heroine? Yep! My sweet boy. He has been sober now since January 2014, but the guilt you feel now for not letting your son go, is the guilt I feel now for letting my son go to those parties. And it turns out, now that all is in the open, 14 is when the pot and drinking started for my son!