Hi smc, i've been thinking about you. Once again, i know exactly how you are feeling... And man, it's tough... I am still going through this, and truthfully these are the 4 things that are slowly pulling me out of the darkness: 1) vigorous exercise - not talking about walking here, i do cycling (spin classes) and kickboxing. 2) baked goods - enough said. 3) meeting new people, and by people i mean men. Nothing gets your self-esteem up more than a little bit of attention from the opposite sex. 4) Time- this also needs no explanation.... It will take time.
Be well. Eat some cookies.