Did you deserve any of this. "NO", you didn't. You spilled out his liquor, something that I am sure you had many, and even more then many discussions about. So he throws out your food and a personal item that meant something to you. He retaliated. Your fault? No, and no again.
Tells you if you call the cops, they will take you away. Uh huh, sure. quacking. Trying to scare you.
Can you do anything with him amicably? Doubt it.
Sometimes the only thing you can do to regain sanity is to leave. I had to.
((((((((((hugs)))))))))))