Sounds like you do have a lot on your plate snakes. I think it is great that you are aware of how much you have going on and it sounds like you have a strong desire to make changes for the positive in your life. I found that in my sobriety I still have crazy family and crazy work "stuff" but not drinking makes my ability to deal with that stuff much easier. It is hard to learn to place your recovery first but it really is the only way.