Wow listening to both You and Glitterdeva really puts the ? in my mind if this EVER really works with an addict or recovering addict.... I am going through a really tough time right now with my Ex-Hus Addict.... He is sober now since Nov and doing really well. I posted about him yesterday... We have become very close again, but it always seems he doesn't understand what his addiction has done to everyone and that it all takes time to heal.. He apparently feels 9 months is long enough and everyone should be ready to move on like one big happy family and not everyone is ready for that... TRUST take a long time to earn back... Does it ever happen?