PieceofPi, I think the best thing i ever did was open up and be honest with my girls. I also attended counseling with them (during part of the time, the other part is theirs alone). They usto attend CR in age appropriate classes. However, more than any one thing, i believe its because they saw me demonstrate fair boundaries and when i did i would always explain calmly to them WHY. Of course i did not go into every little detail, but explained the truth they need for their own safety and healthy boundaries. I have tried to instill these healthy boundaries in all their relationships. My older DD is 14 and that age can have tons of drama, so i want them to be in a healthy place to handle that when it does happen in all issues. Its not been perfect, this has taken time. Its also a fine line to remember im not their friend, im their mom first.
Thank you as always!