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My husband is a periodical binge drnker. We have moved 6 months to a remote mtn location. He is a law enforcement officer. No al anon here. He went to my brothers last night and I am trying to set boundaries. I am presently recovering from severe asthma and respiratory infection.

*Fri night you went to M's. I appreciate the effort you helped with children before you left. I did not hear from you again. I got home at 1pm (had driven children to party) and it was obvious you were still effected by drink.i feel it was v unsafe driving home. I felt unsafe and whatever I said was picked out by you into a negative. 10 yr old dd observed you smelt bad. She was fearful seeing you push ds (2yrs) in toy car too fast. He was scared and started crying. She came to me crying and fearful of talking to you. Dd 2 (5 years) also came crying you were too rough and were fearful.

Over the afternoon you proceeded to repeat a number of hurtful things about my personality and the choice to move, putting the blame solely on myself. I was feeling sick, on medication and desperate to keep peace around the children. This could all have been said in a gentle
loving way any other time. This was heard by our eldest. You also made a number of aspirations on my mental health which were hurtful.

I know you have a long history of binging but I cant be subjected to this again.

I do not want to rush into moving our family. I was looking at all options. I am happy to wait and see what happens.

Dealing with this post binge abuse is not what I will put up with. The children and I should not be subjected to it. If it happens again I am staying up here - but looking at other options. Its not acceptable to me. *


Please help. Usually if I have a problem lately he will flat out just say I am wrong. He agreed last week to a counselor at least.