Originally Posted by
Stung 
You're basically finding carbon copies of your STBXAH (dog food) and creating scenarios where you have a POV with much more control.
I think this is maybe the most valuable observation in this entire thread & I totally agree.
Glad you are feeling better today Pip, but the justifications are just a heckuva a lot more quacking. Nothing you can think of will make it "ok" or more palatable & nothing will change history to give you a different outcome with your Ex.