Thank you so much to everyone for sharing your thoughts and experiences. There's some great advice and much to think about and work on
So glad that I posted about the relapse - just the very act of of admitting to it seems to have helped in its own right. Its crucial that I go to regular meetings - just got home from one and it went really well. It just helps so much to be around people who have been through a similar experiences.
Time to stop beating myself up and get on with it