I'm so glad you updated, I was wondering how things went when he got out.
And listen -- nobody here is going to sigh and say "WHY did she do that after we told her it was a bad idea?". Nobody. Because we've all been there. We've all had to make hard decisions (even if not exactly that one) and we all know that there are so many more things going into a decision like that than you can share on a message board (even if you type really long posts like I do...)
I had scores of people telling me for years to leave my ex. I left when I was ready. My RA friend says her husband fought people telling him to leave her when he discovered she was an A. She's been sober without a relapse for... about 12 years now.
It does happen. I think the most important thing we can always do for ourselves is keep our focus on ourselves, sweep our side of the street, and don't build our lives completely around the alcoholic's success or failure in staying sober. Then whatever happens, we'll be OK.
