clatono--I have a story of my own that you might find amusing....
The very first time I finally came FULLY face to face with my enabling of my adult son....I told him, one day, that I felt that I had an apology to make to him.....that I wanted to apologize for enabling him. That--it was MY BAD and I had been doing it out of ignorance and my mother's desire to help him. That--I knew that I had actually been harming him and that I promised to never do that, again.
OMG...LOL....He immediately jumped to my defense: "No, no, mom! Don't ever say that. You have never enabled me. You are a good mother...and don't ever let anyone say that you are not! Don't put yourself down , so much."
It was really hard for me to keep a straight face while I was still in the room with him.
I also got more hilarious reactions when he began to notice how I was becoming detached from him (from his quacking;requests; etc). Trust me..he did notice the changes in me...LOL.
dandylion