I am sorry you are going through this again. My AH has just hit 90 days and I am walking on eggshells or so it seems. Is your husband in AA/NA? For me - I know that at some point most likely he will relapse, I mean, it is a possibility, that's why all we can say for sure is what we do today. Today he is sober and in a program, working with sponsor. Everything else I have turned over to the care of God. I found that it is unrealistic to ask for anything but one day at a time sobriety. However, my requirement is that he has to be in a program. It is the only thing that worked for him, ever. If he is not, then he is not willing to be sober and that is when he has to leave. I also separated all finances. Have to. Sending positive thoughts and prayers