What used to set me to react that I don't react to anymore was the threat of leaving. "I am going to leave you and never come back then what are you going to do?" I used to beg him not to, and now I just say ok and he always follows it up with "did you hear what I said?" Yes "I wasn't joking" to which my reply is "I know I can see in your face and by your tone you aren't joking" then I leave the room. He never knows how to respond after that.