Things the A does that put you on the defensive.
I notice things now that I have been away from axbf that used to make me react or feel bad. He still does these things when see him but it doesn't bother me anymore. One thing that always bothered me were his irritable responses to questions I had.."what??!!" He would say with a mean expression. Now I just know that's who he is. I don't take it personal. But I used to. What things do you notice about your A that cause you to step back or react?