Originally Posted by
silentrun 
Is someone bringing up mistakes you have made and trying to define you by it now? I did that to other people and myself in my own head. I started crossing out one hurt on the done to me side for every one I crossed out on the I did side. The whole thing just added up to we all make mistakes. Nobody should be defined by the worst moments in their life.
Agreed, silentrun, that's what it feels like. It's like there's a list of requirements for me to get sober, and at the very top is to remove people who hinder my sobriety. My past MO has been to want to retaliate. Finally seeing that may not be the answer.
It's amazing how helpful it is to get these thoughts out on this board and receive feedback. As opposed to just sitting and stewing about it in your own head. Even if SR provides me with just a slight bit of daily relief, that's a huge accomplishment. All my past relief came from the bottle.