Welcome Cherra,
My wife and oldest son both attend Alanon, it's a support group for loved ones of alcoholics. It's really changed their lives! Most places have Alanon meetings, you may want to find one and give it a try. Till then, here's a link to a great writeup on the 12 steps of Alanon. You can read over them and see if anything resonates with you.
12 Steps of Alanon