A place for me here?
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A place for me here?
I'm wondering if I am on the correct forum for what I need. My husband of 37 years is an alcoholic - not recovering - seems to be sliding downhill! He has never been even a social drinker, but after years of pain and little help from doctors he started mixing alcohol with pain pills trying to get some relief. He knows the risk but says he is willing to take it. The problem is that the more he drinks the more he drinks. He has become very verbally and mentally abusive to both my self and our college student daughter. Can anyone tell me if there is a place for me here?
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Hi Cherra - you are very definitely welcome here 
I had a look at your other thread.
It sounds like a dangerous and uncertain situation.
I really think your safety absolutely needs to come first.
D
I had a look at your other thread.
It sounds like a dangerous and uncertain situation.
I really think your safety absolutely needs to come first.
D
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Welcome! Glad that you found us! This is a FANTASTIC site with amazing people. Obviously feel free to post in this forum, but if you scroll down a bit on the main page there is a "friends and family" forum with many many caring individuals who are going through or have gone through what you are going through right now.
Sometimes it's just nice to know there are others "like you"
Again welcome!
(:
Sometimes it's just nice to know there are others "like you"
Again welcome!
(:
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Hi and welcome. As stated above the Friends and Family forum is a great start along with Alanon meetings in your area.
Part of the disease we have is it brings out our dishonesty about our drinking which can lead to a I don’t care attitude. Unfortunately the need to stop must come from within.
Those support groups offer great help for the ones involved.
BE WELL
Part of the disease we have is it brings out our dishonesty about our drinking which can lead to a I don’t care attitude. Unfortunately the need to stop must come from within.
Those support groups offer great help for the ones involved.
BE WELL
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Hi and welcome to SR. I quit drinking a year ago and my husband is still drunk every night. He gets verbally abusive at times, but it is easy for me to ignore him because I know he does not mean it, and he is drunk, and he won't remember it in the morning. Talk to your daughter and let her know, it is the alcohol talking, not her father. I was pretty stupid when I was drunk, so I do understand. Glad you have joined us. You are in my prayers.
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Originally Posted by huntingtontx 
Hi and welcome to SR. I quit drinking a year ago and my husband is still drunk every night. He gets verbally abusive at times, but it is easy for me to ignore him because I know he does not mean it, and he is drunk, and he won't remember it in the morning. Talk to your daughter and let her know, it is the alcohol talking, not her father. I was pretty stupid when I was drunk, so I do understand. Glad you have joined us. You are in my prayers.
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Welcome Cherra,
My wife and oldest son both attend Alanon, it's a support group for loved ones of alcoholics. It's really changed their lives! Most places have Alanon meetings, you may want to find one and give it a try. Till then, here's a link to a great writeup on the 12 steps of Alanon. You can read over them and see if anything resonates with you.
12 Steps of Alanon
My wife and oldest son both attend Alanon, it's a support group for loved ones of alcoholics. It's really changed their lives! Most places have Alanon meetings, you may want to find one and give it a try. Till then, here's a link to a great writeup on the 12 steps of Alanon. You can read over them and see if anything resonates with you.
12 Steps of Alanon
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