Originally Posted by
sunday9 
Sometimes he would throw and break things (usually my stuff....not sure if that was intentional or just handy).
My AXH did this, too. It was never his stuff (or the stuff he actually used / liked that was 'ours,' like the huge TV, or the pictures from his rugby days). And he often had to bypass his stuff to get to mine. I always accepted his back-ssed apologies about not meaning to break my things; they were in the way, it fell and broke when he put it back too hard; he once threw framed pics of my family while carefully picking them from around / between the pics of his family. Odds are, your xABF's stuff was just as handy as yours, too.
Originally Posted by
sunday9 His anger may have subsided since being with her so of course he can blame it on me even more.
Sunday, it's only 'subsided' because he's trying to cultivate a relationship with her. If he was an -ss from the get-go, there'd be no relationship.
It's not her. It's not you.
It's him.