Originally Posted by unsureoffuture

My STBXAH "has the potential" to be a great Dad too. And sometimes when he is truly sober and engaged he is. The problem is, he is unreliable. I can't count on him to be that "great dad" all the time because a lot of the time the alcohol takes over and he becomes reclusive and uninvolved. I also cant count on the fact that he will make good choices, ie driving with the kids while drinking etc. That roller coaster of undependableness.. (is that even a word, lol) ...is what is doing the most damage to me and the kids. I get my hopes up and then wham they come crashing down again.