Hi Jeni.
I haven't been myself much lately so forgive me if I'm way off base here. But back to your original post in this thread.
I don't think it's so much that others have sorted themselves out. Folks begin drinking for many reasons. Some due to overdrinking, some due to how life was so the action and addiction essentially followed them. And many of us drank in order to drown demons inside of us.
For those of us who have the deep seeded demons when the alcoholism is addressed, lo and behold those horrible demons are still with us. Now unfortunately those demons have to be dealt with as well.
I've been sober a long time, but I so understand the feeling when a seemingly unending number of demons are trying to break down the door.
I don't have any great answers for you Jeni. I just wanted you to know that you are moving forward, but I understand how it feels to you that you're not.
I'm glad to read you got through the BBQ unscathed.