Yup yup and Yup! For us the funny part about me making more is, after I pay insurance and other things our take home is about the same.
I used to like the way we shared responsibility. But somewhere along the way it started to feel like more of a division. Like you said.. it doesn't feel like teamwork. Duties, money, child care... I understand some roles are kind of ingrained in us growing up. But does everything have to be so cut and dry? Isn't the point of being in a relationship to have someone there to help through these times? (not the only reason, but you know what I mean) In some instances I've found it actually easier to negotiate with daycare on a delayed payment then bring up any sort of money concern to him. Do you feel that way sometimes?