Wahine, I'm in a similar situation. I think you need to talk to an attorney to see what the laws are in your area. I was talking to a friend from another state and she called the cops when her now ex was verbally threatening her property and they removed him from the house but here where I live my attorney told me it has to be more than verbal abuse to get him out of the house because the ranting and raving hasn't been an actual threat to me of bodily harm which would have made a difference. I would contact a local domestic violence shelter too if you have one in your area or a national one if you don't. I broke down and called one yesterday and they were very helpful. I really know how stressful it is and my heart goes out to you and your children.