Thank you so much!
It`s so important for me to write here, you can`t imagine.
I wrote in a german forum also....and the most answers were like here.
But there was one answer like this:
You have also responsibility for the break down of your marriage....
You have to go to the therapy , your sad children....
I read that...I can`t understand?!
I do my very best.Often it`s not enough, I know.
But its better as drinking alcohol every day and blame all others or better than beat children...
I have NO responsibility for my ex drinking.
Maybe I`m involved in this process, maybe there were some things that promoted his selection.
BUT: Every problem can be solved in a better way than sitting in a small room all day drinking and smoking!
I must heighten my head after this post.
I couldn`t make my husband happy....he couldn`t make me happy.
But in contrary to him, I was able to explain why .
He couldn`t, didn`t want.
So this was his choice.
Sitting, drinking, smoking, keep quiet.
This is quitting a marriage.
He did it long before.