You seem to be expending a lot of energy thinking about other people. It sounds very exhausting to me. There are people and some family members I don't care to be around, but I try not to spend time thinking about them or judging them. It's not my business, and I get to free-up my mind to use for thinking that benefits me.
As I said, your thought process sounds incredibly exhausting. Wouldn't you rather spend time concerning yourself with other things?