I was slipping today and I caught myself...
my husband took a "road trip" with his best friend/drinking buddy today. These historically have been times for big drunks...including last weeks slip.
I was so tempted to call him, actually I was SOOO tempted to forbid him from going....I know I know...out of my control.
I did not call, I even managed to forget that he was going to be gone for the day while I was at work.
He called me when he got home and sounded suspiciously chipper. I did not even changed my tone of voice to indicate that I was concerned.
I did not drive home fast. I did not look in the garage. I did not question him, nag him or even give him sideway glances.
He was clearly not drunk....he may have had something to drink (probably did), although I did not delve into it enough to find out.
My boundary is that I will leave if he comes home drunk. He knows it. I know it. I was so tempted to push the envelope today, since I clearly DO NOT trust him, and I did not push it.
We had a much more pleasant evening and at one point he even commented..."I get really stressed out being with Bill all day, I need to talk to my therapist about that". Well NO CRAP...how about you just not HANG OUT WITH HIM...if only things were that rational in his mind.
So, I am remembering what I know. That is good.
Jenny