I was slipping today and I caught myself...

Old 03-18-2005, 07:10 PM
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I was slipping today and I caught myself...

my husband took a "road trip" with his best friend/drinking buddy today. These historically have been times for big drunks...including last weeks slip.

I was so tempted to call him, actually I was SOOO tempted to forbid him from going....I know I know...out of my control.

I did not call, I even managed to forget that he was going to be gone for the day while I was at work.

He called me when he got home and sounded suspiciously chipper. I did not even changed my tone of voice to indicate that I was concerned.

I did not drive home fast. I did not look in the garage. I did not question him, nag him or even give him sideway glances.

He was clearly not drunk....he may have had something to drink (probably did), although I did not delve into it enough to find out.

My boundary is that I will leave if he comes home drunk. He knows it. I know it. I was so tempted to push the envelope today, since I clearly DO NOT trust him, and I did not push it.

We had a much more pleasant evening and at one point he even commented..."I get really stressed out being with Bill all day, I need to talk to my therapist about that". Well NO CRAP...how about you just not HANG OUT WITH HIM...if only things were that rational in his mind.

So, I am remembering what I know. That is good.

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Old 03-18-2005, 08:49 PM
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Great job, Jen. I know it's difficult to let go of old habits, but today you found the strength to choose a different path. Good for you.
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Old 03-19-2005, 06:50 AM
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jennyk - good for you - keep it going!
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Old 03-19-2005, 08:23 AM
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wonderful wondeful wonderful. Good work.
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Old 03-19-2005, 08:43 AM
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Jenny,
That's great...catching yourself is a big part of the battle for me. You did wonderful.
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Old 03-19-2005, 08:47 AM
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Yeah Jenny!!!!!
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