Wow, I am so sorry. This would make me furious too.
Dont let him blame you for one minute. He needs some help, big time. Protecting your money is paramount as Suki said.
I can feel your anger and frustration. do you have a meeting you attend? maybe some face to face.
Bless your heart. I hope things get better for you, no matter what you decide. Take care of you, and the babies.