Originally Posted by
Carlotta 
the keyword here is potential. I don't think it is appropriate to do that with someone who has been a friend for over a year.
Good point. That's why I sometimes sometimes mistrust my initial "gut" reactions.
I suppose it comes down to motive. If there are safety concerns about an individual, I can't fault someone for gathering additional information, no matter how long the relationship. If the reason for the check was other, well I don't know exactly how I feel about that
Anyway, that's my 2 cents.