How much time in recovery will he need to have before you feel comfortable? And do you realize that no matter what amount of time you set that all he will have is today.
Life long disease, and about the worst class of drugs to be addicted to because the ramifications of that will carry throughout his life.
And so the story goes. I wouldn’t even give a relapse statistic for the first year, hell he has to live through it first … Maybe after that year he might get lucky and be one of the 2-5 percent who don’t relapse. But the odds don’t get better with time passing. It can be easier for him but there is still no guarantee.
Your friend no matter how obvious her pain was did the best thing she could, she showed you her reality of addiction. Maybe some of what you are taking away from it all, like the fact that you don’t think she listened to anything you said is because she did and had heard that all before…
I think that one thing you are missing in this moment is that each day involved, is another day invested…How invested will you be after 1, 2, 5 years if life steps in and things go back to today? Are you so sure it will be easy to walk away …
Take good care of yourself.