Originally Posted by
DoubleBarrel 
MOST addiction stories play badly. Read up in friends and family and see all the stories of heartache and ruined lives.
Your friend did something admirable, IMHO. She risked pissing you off to express her concern for you in a way that was probably very difficult, regarding some hard learned lessons from her own life.
You can HOPE that your guy is gonna be the one or two percent that get better, but your friend is seeing it with both eyes wide open.
You aren't married, you don't have kids, and yet you are choosing to be in a very difficult life EVEN IF HE STAYS SOBER.
I think you need to examine what you mean by the word support. If all you want is your friend to blow smoke and tell you whatever you are doing is great, well, that's not honest.
I think she sounds like a true friend, who is really speaking out for your self interest.
Most addiction stories are a nightmare, and rarely do they end well.
How old are you, and why don't you desire better for yourself?
What does my age matter? I have a good job, I'm a full time student, I've done really well for myself so far and I will be successful in life because I have a good head on my shoulders. Why does me giving my addict boyfriend a second chance mean that I don't desire better things for myself?? I've never once lost sight of myself in this situation, slowed down my progress, or let it interfere with my goals.. I love him so I'm trying to see him get better. But I love me more, and will never allow his addiction to break me down.