Liz I get ya. Whey my XAH would stay sober for longer periods of time it was like he expected everything to be fine and dandy. I did not know who he was from one second to the next. I just could not handle it as he wanted me to think he was some great guy I could depend on when I knew deep down he was not that person.
I told him many times, if you are true to recovery and that is who you want to be, that is wonderful. However, it takes a long period of time to build up trust because it's actions, not words. Hmmm...that never happened in his case. He went back to being the same crappy addict he always was.
I don't think that means it cannot happen for anyone who is committed to it, for me it just means that I don't listen to what comes out of the mouth and look at the actions over the long term.