Curmudgeon, Electrical Engineer, Guitar God Wannabe
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Where the mighty arms of Atlas hold the heavens from the Earth
Posts: 3,403
Welcome to the Board. I'm really glad you found us. Others will be by to greet you and to give you feedback on your situation, but I'd like to say a couple of things, too.
Your primary question is how do you support your ABF during this period of time. I would answer that question by pointing out that you've already been tolerant towards him. It is entirely possible that he's been doing coke all this time. And the times you've "caught" him, you've merely given him a slap on the wrist.
I'm more interested in how we can support you as opposed to how you can help your ABF.
Towards that end, I would encourage you to read the sticky notes on the top of our home page, especially one titled "What Addicts Do". I encourage you to read and learn as much as you can. Knowledge is power, and it may indeed save your sanity.
Hang in there. We're here for you.