My views align with yours, Cow.
I don't attend AA meetings, as I cannot deal with the religious/spiritual framework of that program.
I didn't surrender (or believe) in a HP. I guess I rely mostly on myself and and this site to aid my recovery. I had to change my patterns of behaviour and thoughts. From avoiding certain events, places, and people, to riding out a craving, to learning how to cope with stress without alcohol.
Canada's different I think in that we seem to really DO practice a separation of church with government and people are (on the whole) very private with their religious beliefs. (However, the ending of the AA meetings with The Lord's Prayer drove me nuts). I don't blame you for being frustrated with having to defend your right to be an atheist. I wish there was more respect for others who do not hold the same (usually Christian in North America) beliefs and not force their dogma on people's lives on all levels -- whether it is recovery related, proselytizing, or in public policy making.