Be kind to yourself, bgb. You acted on the information you had... and for 7 months you didn't see ANY signs (b/c he's THAT GOOD as you said) and he was a kind, thoughtful person who cared about you (as opposed to the mental unloving abuse from your X). You shouldn't feel foolish because that was the info you had. You should be PROUD of yourself, however, that you are acting on this new information you have! He's obviously in deep with the addiction having the severe withdrawals. And a YEAR in jail for a dui? Ummmm... then that wasn't his first dui. It looks like he hasn't hit the bottom yet. I wouldn't want to go on that ride down with him if I were you. Take care of yourself (and your kids).