That's the thing, though. They don't have to do anything. They don't have to carry the burden. They make the choice to be caretakers, just like you made the choice to get off the crazy train. You don't owe them or your mother anything. We are taught differently as children of alcoholics. Maybe they will see your happiness and lack of stress and start to seek that life for themselves. I was the first of my FoO to cut ny AM out of my life (ok, my dad was first, as he divorced her when I was four), but now two years later, every last one of us has gone No Contact. And you know what? It hasn't made a bit of difference in how much, when, or where she drinks. Your mother is a grown woman and can fend for herself.