Originally Posted by
Serper2014 
Let's get this sober train rolling at full speed!
I think people are just cautioning you, don't be a runaway train.
Amends, in the 12-step tradition, are number 9. There is a reason they aren't in the early steps, so that you can truly work on yourself, understand what the amend process is supposed to do, and recognize when an amend does more harm than good.
If I was wanting to make amends with a ex-girlfriend, and I'm talking about
me, I'd be looking close at motivation.
That's me. You do what you feel you must do. Good luck.