Hey Nuudawn,
I hope you can sort the relationship out in a good way without compromising your sobriety - I know how hard that is, had been there in the past, with another alcoholic. I was genuinely in love with the guy and vice versa, but the addictions and all the emotional instability, drama, etc progressed into an extent of insanity (gradually) that in the end I could just no longer tolerate. It was just as much my fault as his, if we can say "fault" at all. Long story short: I could not make it work, tried so many things. I really hope you can! The counseling is probably a good idea if both of you take it seriously.
Put your recovery as a priority, no matter what!
Best wishes to you.