Thanks for all your input.
I am ok as far as my part goes. I feel strong and stable, but I also feel like I wasnt viewing the anxiety with enough seriousness. My first reaction is always he can handle it, he knows what to do, he will talk to me (and he has been) but when you see your husband standing in front of a cooler of ice cream unable to take it all in and make a choice. It makes me think um Thank God he called his doctor and was able to reason it out and do it. He said our talking this week and reviewing his actions made him start to think and he knew he was not thinking right, then he got scared.
He was not like this ever before the drugs. He has a good job with a lot of responsibility and has to make decisions, look at tiny details and he can take stuff in and come up with the best answer before I even have an idea of what the problem is. This is what Im used to seeing.
Good news is we have a lot of ice cream now !!
((FT)) thank you because I think much of this is as you described. Its going to take time. One thing is he's used to not giving a lot of attention to his own feelings but would turn to work and use it as an outlet. But now his work is slow and he is in counseling and he has to face his emotions. He cant avoid feelings and he has to learn new ways. It is a lot like what you are seeing with your family member. Thank You !!
((Cleanin)) Thank you, yes we have a good marriage despite all these problems and he has always been a good husband, minus crazy stuff he did when using hard last year. But hes worked hard to help repair the damage and I cant ask for more.