strayJ

Hi Mr Ben, I hear you, particularly the part of "dwelling": While I find it's really helpful to acknowledge the feelings and allow them to be there, to be with them for a while, I think it's counter-productive to kind of "sink into" them. Maybe that's where the self-pity part starts?!

So far I've been handling this topic more or less intuitively - I don't know if I could actually give my feelings a time-frame or whether they would stick to it ;-)

Thanks for writing!