Hi Nuudawn,
Your post sounds exactly like me. The small details may be a little different, but the bullet points are the same. It was overwhelming and seemingly insurmountable. All of it.
But I can tell you that once I had a significant amount of sober time, all of those issues eventually resolved. It did not happen overnight, and it did not happen all at once. But it did happen. I needed to be sober to be able get my life back. That was the first and only thing I needed to do.
And if I can do it, then you absolutely can do it.