I came here two years ago looking for how to save him and my marriage. Instead I learned that I needed to let go to save myself. I was too scared to follow through until another relapse forced the issue, but it has turned out a lot more beautiful and much less scary than I imagined. Ending the romance actually strengthened our relationship and let us both heal and recover the independence we lost in each other.
I heard this message when I came here, but wasn't ready to heed it, thinking that having a young child and toddler was too much for one person, but it's so much less than the burden of addiction over my head. I found peace, reliability, and strength (all were in me from the start) and want others to hear that message too.