No I know it's not. His sister called today she's home for the funeral and we have always gotten on well she was very supportive having had addiction with alcohol herself but she sought counselling as she didn't want to lose her family!! She has told me aswell to focus on myself and let him get on with it!! She informed me that MIL is very angry with her son but doesn't want to appear to be taking sides while I understand that a phone call wouldn't have hurt after all she has on other occasions he has walked out!!
I will support him and his family tomorrow but I have told him that once the funeral is over he's on his own until he has figured this out. For my own sanity I need to focus on me but here's the thing I don't even know how I true.y feel and don't know how to figure me out!!!