Originally Posted by
FeelingGreat 
If he's talking about a 6 pack now and then, he's not anywhere close to recovery. We alcoholics who have accepted what we are know that we can never drink again.
Controlled drinking is a fantasy for alcoholics. My ex had the same fantasy. "If you come back I won't drink anymore...except if we get a bottle of wine, or maybe a beer sometimes."
We let it become our fantasy if we fall for it. Tell ourselves that he can handle it, this time will be different. That is a recipe for disappointment, because we expect something that they only wish they were capable of delivering.
Alcoholism is an all or nothing proposition. They are either drinking and progressing to the end stage of the disease, or they are sober. Zero alcohol. Not even a glass of champagne at a wedding or a beer after mowing the lawn. Because that one drink leads back to wherever the disease left them last time.
Hugs.
