Hi keeper,
Welcome to the forum.
I came to this forum because my son has a drinking problem. I was desperate to help him. It sounds like your mother is in that place too.
The information on this link helped me a lot.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...&threadid=2168
I would avoid confronting your father right now until you learn more about addiction. There are al-anon meetings with the purpose of helping family members understand addiction and what we can do to improve our lives when someone we love drinks. Maybe you could find one and attend with your mother.
Please also read the power posts while you are here. The link is on the top of this forum and the nar-anon forum.
Your father's recovery from alcohol will have to come from within him. There isn't a whole lot we can do from the outside.
So read what we have here and think about al-anon meetings and hopefully you will all gain a new understanding of alcoholism.
I very much love my son who is an alcoholic. It's safe to share here.
Hugs,
MG