Most likely you "just" want to Love and Be Loved.
We all do, right?
B U T an A Loves their Alcohol.
Really he has a No-No Choice.
No Alcohol OR No You.
but IF You do want to Love and Be Loved . . . you are not going to find that with an active A.
(nor temp A, like he is hoping for, nor dry drunk A, nor . . . . )
THIS is why so many SUCCESSFUL Alanoners go OFF the A for year, You work YOUR Program, He works HIS Program, and by then you all may have something to work with. Or not.